Okay my lovelies! It is time! It is time to step on up into more of our majestic greatness baby! You with me?
NUMBER ONE:
SET CLEAR AND SELF LOVING BOUNDARIES. This means really being clear with yourself, what kind of experience you want to have with people you share you life with. Do you want open, uplifting, meaningful connection or do you want artificial, hurtful, down pulling interactions? Really...we need to be REALLY clear on this. THEN we make it clear in our behaviour what we are willing to accept! Your life...your way baby! Trust me, it aint selfish it is SELF-FIRST..100% of the time!
Dr Phil says it beautifully and I never tire of repeating it: "We teach others how to treat us". In my experience...this is spot-didly-on. Think about it. We complain when someone repeatedly talks down to us, when someone repeatedly attacks us with their words, when someone humiliates us in public (insert your own complaint about others)..BUT the truth is, if we are repeatedly being exposed to this behaviour it is because we haven't been clear about how we deserve to be treated THE FIRST TIME!!
The FIRST time when that inner voice say "uh uh...no you didn't"...and you don't make it clear right then and there that that was out of line...then they go "ok, they think this is an okay way for me to behave" AND they do it again!! And again UNTIL we say STOP!!! Enough!!! Put a clear boundary in place, and if it is overstepped...they need to know it, both out of self love and self development and for them to know that they need to lift their game if they want to play on your team. Seriously, who do you want on your team. Those willing to grow with you or be against you??
We know that we become like the people we share energy with, the people in our inner circle. Raise the bar people. You raise it so others may raise theirs. You do it...don't be waiting them to change baby! We need to stop 'putting up with' poor treatment of our divine, beautiful selves. If someone was speaking terribly to your child would you just go, "oh well, too bad that?". Hell no...our kids are taught to clearly say "STOP IT, I don't like it". Make it clear people! Expect the same treatment of yourself!
Time to step on up into our greatness. Shake off the hooks that others try to plant in deep so that you have to stay at their painful level. The level where they don't have the courage to really step up and own their blaming of you for their misfortune. They will lash out. They will say we don't understand what it is like, they will want to dig those hooks in deeper. They will try to knock you down and dim your light. They will call you names. They will tantrum because they no longer get their way. They can no longer abuse you and others around you and you let them. When you say YES to self love FIRST you say NO to abuse. Time to stop the abuse...because that is exactly what it is.
Have a look at your life now. Who do you have in it that want to see you soar? Who do have that REALLY appreciates you being in your life? Who do you have in your life that truly wants the best for you? These people are bloody GOLD!
Tell them you love them. Tell them you appreciate them. If you don't have them...BE ONE!! If you have people who are only looking for the worst in you...baby, time to move the bus on...the bus you are driving! The bus that is YOUR life!
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